What are the
relationships between Lori and her parents, and how do her parents affect
her?
Lori and her father have a very tense and scary relationship. The reason why is
because whenever Lori misbehaves, or makes a mistake, her father criticizes her,
or yells. This is not the key to making your child mature. It is teaching them
right from wrong with respect. In the book, I've noticed several incidents
where Lori wants attention and makes a fuss, and her dad comes along and
screams at her, like screaming is the only solution. Lori's father thinks
that she is weak internally, and small internally, so it's easy for him to
stomp on her.
For example on page 50, "Dad keeps on
saying, 'End of discussion, and that's final!' His voice gets really deep
like Walter Cronkite. So usually I would slam my door really hard just so my
parents could hear something!"
This shows that their relationship is tense
because since her father yells at her a lot, she feels like she does
everything wrong, and she has to do something bad to get his attention.
On page 53 when Laurie
misbehaves, her dad hits her and she feels vulnerable. " I guess I really
did blend in like a chameleon, since no one seemed to know I was there.
Which is good because at least they stop punishing me." This shows that
the way her father affects Lori is by when he spanks her. By spanking Lori, it
takes away her dignity as well as humiliating her. He tells Lori how immature
she is. When he does this, Lori feels alone and wants to fit in, but her
fathers pushing her away by making her feel guilty about herself.
On page 77,
"That's when I knew I had the most logical argument ever! I told dad that
the more he pays attention to what I eat, the less I eat. And I told him that
if he did just ignore what I eat, everything would be fine!" This shows
that Lori doesn't want the kind of attention her dad is giving her by yelling
at her. She wants the normal attention, like when she feels loved, and when
people encourage her to eat healthfully.
On page 31, "How
we care too much about math how much she wishes I wasn't So unique. More
specifically he never says, "You're wrong about Lori. She's very
interesting and funny and smart and pretty so leave her alone. Therefore, I'm
always worried about what mom might say, and what my dad might not. In sum,
this is all I know but my dad." This shows that Lori doesn't feel respected or
loved by her father. Whenever her mom yells at Lori, Her dad never defends or
sticks up for her. Their relationship is very tense because she feels unloved
as well as disrespected.
What are the
relationships between Lori and her parents, and how do her parents affect
her?
Laurie
and her father have a very tense and scary relationship. The reason why is
because whenever Laurie misbehaves, or makes a mistake, her father criticizes her,
or yells. This is not the key to making your child mature. It is teaching them
right from wrong with respect. In the book, I've noticed several incidents
where Lori wants attention and makes a fuss, and her dad comes along and
screams at her, like screaming is the only solution. Lori's father thinks
that she is weak internally, and small internally, so it's easy for him to
stomp on her.
For example on page 50, "dad keeps on
saying 'end of discussion! and that's final!' His voice gets really deep
like Walter Cronkite. So usually I would slam my door really hard just so my
parents could hear something!"
This shows that their relationship is tense
because since her father yells at her a lot, she feels like she does
everything wrong, and she has to do something bad to get his attention.
On page 53 when Lori misbehaves, her dad hits her and she feels vulnerable. " I guess I really
did blend in like a chameleon, since no one seemed to know I was there.
Which is good because at least they stop punishing me." This shows that
the way her father affects Lori is by when he spanks her. By spanking Lori, it
takes away her dignity as well as humiliating her. He tells Lori how immature
she is. When he does this, Lori feels alone and wants to fit in, but her
fathers pushing her away by making her feel guilty about herself.
On page 77,
"That's when I knew I had the most logical argument ever! I told dad that
the more he pays attention to what I eat, the less I eat. And I told him that
if he did just ignore what I eat, everything would be fine!" This shows
that Lori doesn't want the kind of attention her dad is giving her by yelling
at her. She wants the normal attention, like when she feels loved, and when
people encourage her to eat healthfully.
On page 31, "How
we care too much about math how much she wishes I wasn't So unique. More
specifically he never says, "You're wrong about Lori. She's very
interesting and funny and smart and pretty so leave her alone. Therefore, I'm
always worried about what mom might say, and what my dad might not. In sum,
this is all I know but my dad."
This shows that Lori doesn't feel respected or
loved by her father. Whenever her mom yells at Lori, Her dad never defends or
sticks up for her. Their relationship is very tense because she feels unloved
as well as disrespected.
Mom
and Lori have a strange relationship. In the book Lori and her argue a lot
because of disagreements. The mother is the greatest mom because she teaches
Lori bad lessons. Lori is impacted by this because she thinks the lessons are
" important" and that she has to be what her mother wants her to be.
This is one of the reasons why she became anorexic, she doesn't feel confident
enough with herself because she is expected to be perfect but she is not.
On page 20,
" I figured mom and dad would be proud of
me for showing Alan the new rule that they've been trying to teach me, but
dad's face turned red and mom gasped."
This shows that her parents are teaching her not to standup for
yourself, or saying something back is not the right thing to do. One of the
reasons why she turn anorexic because Lori doesn't feel herself anymore
and feels like she needs to be different in order to be loved by her mother.
She feels trapped and like she doesn't have any control.
On page 61, " Since
all Kate had on her plate was a piece of chicken and a spoonful of rice. But
then mom laughed again even though I wasn't trying to be funny. I wish everyone
would stop laughing at me for once!" This shows that Lori thinks that she
doesn't get taken seriously. Whenever she says something important her mother
laughs her like whatever Lori says is not important. Her mother and hers
relationship is tense at times because Lori wants to be taken seriously by her
mom.
On page 59, "Mom
didn't notice the snag because she was busy looking at the chubby lady sitting
at the next table. The lady was ordering pancakes with sausage with extra
syrup. David said he didn't think she needed extra syrup." this shows that
the mom is teaching the kids to make fun of people who aren't perfect, or don't
have a perfect body. Lori looks up to her mother and is learning from this.
Their relationship is confusing because Laurie criticizes her mother's opinions
on certain things. But on the other hand, Lori sometimes agrees with her
mothers opinions.
On page 62, Lori and her family are having
dinner. Lori is noticing how her mother doesn't eat a lot. "So I guess
here's another rule, if your woman you're supposed to try to look like a girl
with a "girlish figure", but if your girl, you're supposed to act
like a woman by not being "spirited". Except I eat and talk like guys
do. No wonder why people think I'm such a weirdo!" This shows that her
mother is teaching her that girls shouldn't eat a lot and sending out the
message that if a girl eats as much as a guy, she'll get fat. That is a bad
message to send your kids, because no child should be thinking about how they
look like. Parents should be teaching their kids that no matter how you look
like, you're beautiful. this shows that the mom treats Lori like she isn't
beautiful.
On page 25,
"After school I told mom about how both boys wanted me on their team. She
got excited too. 'The boys are fighting over you already!' she said like I was
talking about a school dance. I don't think she heard about the part about the
homerun." This shows that the mom is overlooking her daughters
achievement, and instead is projecting her own ideas that being attractive to
boys is more important. Lori is learning from this at such a young age, and the
fact that her mom is teaching her about being attractive, is unnecessary.